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What is your reason for being?

Posted on January 21, 2018

By Brandon Plunkett. Originally posted on Linkedin.   As I sat here pondering the significance of this infographic and how it represents exactly how I am trying to steer my own ship right into that fulfilling “Ikigai” sweet spot, I wondered why we English-speakers have not created an equivalent word. ‘Fulfillment’ is a good word, but I think we can do better in capturing the essence of living a life full of purpose and meaning. I
In episode 9 of the We Are Better Men Podcast we interview Charlie Farley, a top of the charts “Country Rapper”, Alternative Country Artist on his raise to stardom, family life, retiring and coming back and everything in between.     Charlie’s song “Where I’m From”  

Holly Butcher’s “Note Before I Die”

Posted on January 11, 2018

Holly Butcher (1990 – 2018) wrote this before her death in 2018. Holly lost her battle to cancer and wanted to leave the world with the following advice. It’s a strange thing to realise and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and
Had to share this… Really? This is what parenting has come to? We can encourage our children to play with younger siblings, family members, friends, etc…. This is a non-issue. I hope other parents of children who this boy plays with see this and realize they should encourage their children to embrace those different than themselves. Lacey Brandenburg received this letter from another child’s mother after her son, a boy with a disability, spent some

Hey Dad…. Anonymous Voice Mails

Posted on December 23, 2017

Listen to more of the We Are Better Men Podcast here.  In 2017 we set up an anonymous mailbox and allowed men to call in and leave voice messages for their fathers. some of the messages were heart breaking, others were inspirational beyond belief.  

Stop Being A Tourist

Posted on December 12, 2017

Tourists take a ‘selfie’ picture as demonstrators burn a trash container during a May Day rally in Barcelona, Spain, Thursday, May 1, 2014. Tens of thousands of workers marked May Day in European cities with a mix of anger and gloom over austerity measures imposed by leaders trying to contain the eurozone’s intractable debt crisis. (AP Photo/Manu Fernandez)   I don’t spend a ton of time travelling, due to business, work, fatherhood, career, school, and
I know what it’s like to be a busy parent, never have time to go out, meet people, hang out with friends, and socialize. I moved from small-town, middle of no-where, Canada to a huge ass city. I just had my third baby, I was starting my own business AND I was transitioning from a single mom, to a common law relationship, over night. It was everything happening all at once and I was so

Burger King’s Mic Drop

Posted on October 30, 2017

This is probably one of the best anti-bullying PSA’s out there. Nice work Burger King!  

Stephen Paddock’s father

Posted on October 7, 2017

Disclaimer: This article is not intended to appear judgmental, but rather factual. Let’s get a put a few things out there to start this off right. I refuse to call Stephen Paddock a “Shooter” as there are many gun owners who safely own and register their guns, use them for sport, hunting or self protection, and are good people. Calling him a “Shooter” often associates gun owners as horrible people. So let’s call him what
PsychCentral recently published an article titled “How to help your children when their other parent is a narcissist”.  However, the fundamental parenting principles reccomended by clinical psychologist  Sharie Stines  can be applied to any parent in high conflict custody battle, or even parents who aren’t in any sort of family litigation at all. They are great concepts and make perfect sense. Honesty Always be honest with your children. Keep it age appropriate but ensure that
I was listening to Michael Smerconish‘s show on POTUS (Sirius 124) this morning on my way into work as I normally do and he brought up an interesting article written by Jean Twenge titled “Have Smartphones Destroyed A Generation?”  Twenge is known for her research on the differences of generations and major impacts to them. She brilliantly uses data to prove theories that often are very factual and relative to the millennial generation.  Some of
Most said that Sons of Anarchy was going to be action packed, not having much depth, television show that would just portray bikers are thugs and gangsters. What I don’t think any of us were prepared for was how well Kurt Sutter’s writing was going to be in terms of a man’s journey into Fatherhood and protecting his children. This monologue sums it up nicely.

What is a Xennial?

Posted on June 30, 2017

For too long those of us who grew up playing outside in the dirt and hitting on girls on Yahoo Chat in Grade 12 have been identified as Millenials. We aren’t. We know in our hearts we prefer the work ethic of our parents and the tech savvyness of our younger friends and family. We were lost for awhile, but now we have been found!
Father’s Day has been celebrated religiously in Europe since the middle Ages, however Father’s Day in North America hasn’t been. In fact, it was a long struggle and involved many advocates over many years to get it implemented and noted as a national day of celebration. In 1908 the first Father’s Day celebration was held on July 5th in Fairmont, West Virginia at the Williams Memorial Methodist Episcopal Church South, now know as the Central

10 Random Things Fatherhood Taught Me

Posted on May 30, 2017

Fatherhood comes at you like a Miley Cyrus Wrecking Ball (minus the odd irrelevant naked woman riding it). It changes you. As more grey hair comes in, I’m starting to realize that sometimes it takes a wrecking ball to make you realize what really matters. Especially as a man.  Men are judged on things like strength, tolerance, income, and many other things. That’s not to say that women aren’t… but this isn’t about women. As
No Deadbeat Society just loaned a Nigerian Farmer enough money to upgrade his farm so that he can bring in more profit to support himself and his family. Here is his story: Sadiau, a Babban Gona maize farmer, is married and lives in a modest mud house with his family in Kinkiba village. Sadiau is a meticulous farmer who has invested time and resources in his farm, and like every parent, hopes to see his
In a study by Social Media Link (see info graphic below) they found that 61% of dads have found that they have had conversations through social media that helped them become better dads.  
Dear Son, Though you are too young to understand this right now, I wanted to write you this letter to explain a few things.   You were not a mistake. There are no mistakes in life when it comes to love.  Though love might not exist between your parents, that does not mean that you are not bound to me by unconditional love. I actually owe you my life. Not my actual life, but the
Stephen originally posted these pictures on reddit without much of a background. They blew up and people started talking about how horrible the parenting was. Then it was realized that every single one of the pictures was a fake. Stephen posted them with hopes they would gain traction so he could share his story.  During an interview with BuzzFeed News, Stephen spoke about the rare condition his toddler had battled. She had what they call
A 45 year old man killed himself earlier this month due to the amount of child support and spousal support he was ordered to pay two women who both mothered his children. He was ordered to pay his first wife, who was raising two of his daughters a total of $6,500 a month in spousal and child support. He was ordered to pay what is believed roughly $1,500 – $2,000 on top of that to
Awesome painting in honor of the fallen Dallas Police Officers Follow the artist on instagram – https://www.instagram.com/patchwearcustomclothin/  
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The Red Pill – Movie Review

Posted on March 10, 2017

I finally had a chance to purchase, sit down and watch Cassie Jaye’s “The Red Pill” last night. As someone who’s partially involved in the Men’s rights movement, especially when it comes to discussing issues relating to fatherhood, I was eager to finally sit down and watch the movie.  I pay attention to what’s in the media. I expected to see a movie very dramatically show a feminist transition into a MRA (Men’s rights activist)
Rhys Vivian, a student at Middlsex University summarized his findings as: “Overall, the Criminal Justice System think they require a higher level of operant conditioning (reinforcement/punishment to shape behaviour) to act as a deterrent for men to prevent recidivism (re-offending), and more community work and cautions for women. This suggests that the Criminal Justice System has a classicist approach towards men and a positivistic approach towards women. This leads to my view on gender treatment,
Vancouver emcees StevieP and Orion recently released a song and music video for their song called “Better Place”. Two fathers who have realized how important their children are, and how once they became a part of their lives how their world became a “better place” We give this track the “No Deadbeat Society” stamp of approval for sure… Rap music and fatherhood isn’t something new. Hip Hop music , especially the mainstream often generalizes men

10 Things A Boy Should Know About Love

Posted on August 26, 2016

Growing up and experiencing the journey from boyhood to manhood is full of challenges, struggles, highs and lows… But now as I’ve experienced over 3 decades of life I have come up with 10 points to teach our boys to help prepare them for the complex spiderweb of emotions that love seems to be. If you “feel” it, go for it.  Let yourself feel vulnerable. If you have feelings for her, tell her. Rejection is